Supporting a friend

If a friend is showing out-of-character behaviour or engaging in risks, it may be a sign something is going on at home

Checking in will let them know you are there to support them if they feel like sharing

It may be hard to understand what a friend is experiencing or it may even be hard to believe (especially if you know their family) but listening to what they share can make your friend's experiences feel validated​

If your friend feels they are listened to, they may be more likely to seek help if they need it.

Experiencing abuse at home can feel overwhelming so talking to a professional or trusted adult may help.

Trusted adults could be a teacher, a police officer, a neighbour, a family friend, a sports coach etc. 

If your friend is nervous about speaking to someone, you could offer to go with them or encourage them to call an anonymous helpline.

Sometimes people don’t want to, or aren’t able to, reach out for help for fear that it will make a situation more unsafe. Even though, it may seem 'wrong' if your friend doesn't want to seek help, it may be the best decision for their safety at the time.

Respecting their decisions will make them trust you more and help them feel safe sharing with you.

Domestic and family violence can be an emotionally and physically isolating experience. Making efforts to spend time with a friend will make them feel valued.

If you are able to, offering transport assistance or asking if they want to stay the night may help relieve stress.​

If your friend is struggling at home and then starts engaging in risky behaviours (such as drinking alcohol, stealing, not doing schoolwork), they could be at risk of becoming addicted to those behaviours.

You could also encourage your friend to continue doing things they love by spending time doing those activities with them.